10.02.2005

Ugh, Ugh and Ugh!

I'm going to say something that is vey evil. I HATE my sister. I'm frowning up my face as I even think about her. She is such an asshole. I have two brothers and two sisters. Three of them, I'll call them Jr. (the oldest brother), D (the cool sister) and Queen Asshole (the hated sister) are from my dad's first marriage. My dad was 21 years older than my mother so he had a wife and three children before he and The Heavenly One met. Dad was already divorced when he and THO met. Anyway, my brother, the younger than the rest but older than me brother and I are my dad's "second set" of kids. Since my brother who I'll call Sweet Brother and I grew up together, we are close. The other three were young adults when Sweet Brother was born and already married with children when I was born. Sweet Brother is 10 years older than me. Anyway, when my dad died, he left me this house because I was the youngest and my dad being an old country boy was following Southern tradition which says that the house, bulk of money, etc. goes to the youngest unmarried child (especially a daughter). When my dad died, I was in graduate school and so the money he left me and this house really helped out. All of my brothers and sisters, with the exception of Queen Asshole own their own houses (or two) and are doing very well financially.

Just a little background. Queen Asshole barely graduated from high school. She didn't go to college and really hasn't done anything productive with her life. She was/is a coke head, drinks more than a fish and is just in general a get over creatin (sp?). She is like 55, has some crap ass job at a department store where all of her co workers are college students and is married to a man who does not work and is generally a nasty person. Once when I was like 7 or 8, my cousin T and I walked in on her sniffing cocaine in my parents' bathroom. She continuously cries broke and borrows money from my older brother and sister who bail her out time and time again. She is stupid, conniving, not cute at all, she has a little smushed in face and just is generally not a nice person. Sam, who is the sweetest dog in the world bit her once and barks at her constantly whenever he happens to see her. I barely speak to her, other than to say hi when I am face to face with her and I keep my distance. And, she is cheap, not frugal, but cheap. Once, we were all visting my parents, I think we were having a barbeque, she was going to go to the store because my parents didn't have the kind of beer she wanted, my dad asked her to buy him a pack of cigarettes, and she held out her hand so that he would give her the money. To her own daddy!

All througout her adulthood, my dad has given her money, given her down payments on apartments, etc. She is just a fuck up.

Anyway, her son is a special needs child (he is 25 now) because he was born addicted to cocaine, because she's a coke head and he serious problems. Before my dad died, he allowed her to live in a house he owned because she felt her son would do better in a smaller environment (she was living in one of those HUGE apartment buildings). My dad allowed her to live there at discount rent, $500 dollars a month for a three bedroom, two bathroom living room, dining room, eat in kitchen deck type apartment. In NYC, this apt is worth like $2,500 dollars a month and even when she moved in, it would have been worth like $1,500. However, she doesn't pay rent. Like EVER. The Heavenly One now owns the house and Queen Asshole DOES NOT PAY RENT. No explanations, no excuses, no nothing, she just doesn't pay. She hasn't paid rent since like April, maybe May. And when she does manage to pay, it always late or half , some stupid shit like that. However, taxes are still due, water bill and insurance has to be paid and all of this comes out of THO's pocket. On top of all of this, Queen Asshole goes around gossiping about people, telling EVERYONE'S business and just generally being an asshole. Sweet Brother stayed over to THO's house the other night, something was wrong with the alarm on his SUV and he didn't want to park on the street near his house so he parked in THO's garage and got it fixed in the morning. Queen Asshole saw Sweet Brother at THO's house and she called EVERYONE and told them ALL, Sweet Brother and his wife were having problems. WTF?! That shit is ridiculous. About 2 weeks ago or so, D (the cool sister) asked me, how are you and Mysterious Ex doing? As this is something she has never asked, I asked her, what do you mean? She tells me, Queen Asshole told me she hasn't seen him around. WTF? You mean to tell me in between fucking her drunk ass husband and snorting cocaine 20 hours a day, this bitch has time to look ten houses up the street and see who's car is in my driveway?! You've got to be kidding me!

She told me last year sometime, "you know if you sell that house, you have to split up the money five ways right? It's not fair that you should be the only person to share in OUR (her empahasis) father's hard work."

First off, I never said I was going to sell the house (not to her at least or matter of fact, not to any of my siblings)

Second off, my dad left ME the house, not us. Anyway, I'm not selfish, it isn't as though I wouldn't share but,

#1 My brothers and sister all own their own houses. Sweet Brother owns a condo, a house and some land further south where he and his wife are planning to build a home. Jr. has two houses and is planning on retiring to Florida in the next couple of years to a custom built home. D and her husband sold their townhouse for like $1.2 million dollars a few years ago and are living the high life, sans the drugs, in the south.

#2 NO one else has even mentioned anything like this to me. The furthest thing that has occurred is my oldest brother Jr. told me if I wanted to sell the house to let him know so that no one tries to cheat me out of a decent price.

#3 Since everyone is doing their own thing, no one cares about this house, they all have their own lives and their own stuff, no one cares.

#4 Even without this house, it has always been my plan to go out into the world and buy my own place. Since I was younger, it has always been my intention to make my own way in life and own my own shit.

It sickens me that she can't do the same. Why does she feel entitled to live off of my dad's hard work? Like when my dad died, everyone was sad and upset over his death but SHE was the one to lead the crusade to having the will read and getting the money she thought she was entitiled to. While no one else in the family was even thinking about how this or that was going to be split up or who was going to own this house or that, she was on top of evrything. I bet you to this day, she could tell anyone who asked how much each of us received, down to the penny. It's like since he did well for himself, she feels she doesn't have to. She is such a fucking get over and I hate her for that.

We are supposed to have a family meeting on Wednesday to discuss her non payment of rent and already I am heated. I know that I'm going to wind up cursing her out or something, already I'm angry just thinking about it. She gets on my nerves. She's such a lazy, get over bitch.

But the thing is, for some reason, no one tells her any of this stuff. It's like they just let her continue to do this shit. She shouldn't do any of this stuff and should have enough common sense or self respect to not do it but obviously she doesn't and no one will ever say, "hey Asshole, cut that shit out". I just don't understand how she feels its her right to stay anywhere and especially for free. I've always been thankful that I've been given such a privilege. I'm thankful I had parents who invested well and made it possible for me to have a great future for myself and for my future children. Even The Heavenly One has said time and time again, if it weren't houses, we wouldn't have been able to send you to school or be able to afford this or do that. I've always been thankful, but, I've always known that it was a privilege and not a right. I KNOW that I am not entitiled to anything. SHE, doesn't seem to understand that. I'm the only one EVER who has called her out on her dumb shit and so she continues to do this. THO feels bad because she says if she dies, I will get the four houses and she doesn't want me to put up with Queen Asshole's bullshit. I told THO, let her have the house, you know that's what she wants anyway it isn't worth the irritation to me, it really isn't. I have no long term vested interest in any of those houses and feel wishy washy about the one I am living in, it really isn't a big deal to me. THO however is very stuck on "the principle of the matter". I'll see how shit turns out.

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